Asking the right questions at the right time will surely take you to a place where you like to reach. One might ask, how do I know which is the right question for a particular situation? I do agree with you in understanding the difficulty. This is a mandatory skill that gets developed over a period.
Questions are the keys to lead a successful life and by changing the questions one can change his life. Questions are creating ways to program our mind. It helps us to collect information and understand that for us to reproduce it when required.
Once we come to the earth everything is new and we don’t know about anything. When I saw a ball, i asked my mom “what is this?” and mom said “it is a ball”. I just repeated the word ball and asked again “where do we use it?”. “We use it to play” mom replied. “Oh, how to play with a ball?” i asked again and mom said “come let me teach you”. This is how we started learning about each item we see in this world. If we start talking about questions, we can talk for ages. Let me come to the topic – How to make questioning effective?
Here are some points that you can follow to master your questioning skill:
1. Get a quick grasp of the situation – the current emotional state of the person, current context, audience & your emotional state.
2. Frame the question in such a way that you get all the information required to move on with your next item. when we frame a question we always want the expected answer for everything is ‘preprocessed’ in our mind. sometimes the entire conversation is rehearsed in the mind before it happens. We will just ask questions to affirm with the expected answers that we have in our mind, but be ready if you hear a ‘No’ in case your expected answer is a ‘Yes’. Also, keep the questions simple and easy to understand and this saves a lot of time.
3. Avoid asking the same questions. sometimes we don’t accept that we don’t understand the answers and we try to ask the same question in different forms which irritates others.
4. Know when to stop asking questions to start processing them .Sometimes the person whom we question may not have the right information, or he may not want to reveal the information and we need to understand this from the body language or the sound modulation for he may not have an answer at that point of time. In those situations asking more questions is a waste of time. If you get all the answers from that person to proceed with your next item, you need to stop questioning and must start processing with the collected information.
Ask right questions, you will surely get success in all departments in life. Happy Questioning!